It has been a few months since my last article. Hurricane Florence disrupted many lives in September and the disruption will continue for many months – possibly years – for many. Immediately after the storm past I was asked to lead a NC Baptist on Mission Disaster Relief Operational Center (DROC). I was honored to be asked to such a task and I oversaw the site at Scotts Hill for two months. But this is not what the article is truly about as I learned a viable lesson on the need to have men who have your back.
During times of disaster rather it be a hurricane as was the case here, health issues, financial issues, relationship issues, or any number of other disasters that comes into our lives, we can easily lose focus on our relationship with God. Many will say in those times I find myself being drawn closer – I understand that – but there are times because of the attention the disaster demands we can find ourselves neglecting our intimate and intentional time with the Father. This was my case.
After a week of operating the site a pastor friend came by and asked how I was doing. I shared with him I was finding it hard to find time to steal myself away to spend with the Father in the Word and prayer. The day began early and by the end of the day I was tired and just ready to go to bed. Then came my Got Your Back friends.
These are four men who I meet with weekly to talk and pray together. These men saw the struggle I was having and though we couldn’t meet at our regular place – one suggested we meet at the DROC location. These men were life saviors in many ways. A couple of them were able to volunteer some of their time to help during the week so they were walking by my side. Others were praying and checking up on me during the week. But every week we met for an hour at the DROC to just share and pray with each other. They also got to see some of the challenges I was addressing at the site as I often talked with people who were hurting as a result of the hurricane.
I call them my Got Your Back friends because we had been studying Gary Yagel’s book ‘Got Your Back’ for the past several weeks before the hurricane hit. We had began developing a bond with each other as we walked through this book and began spending time in prayer with each other. Beginning to share some of our individual struggles in our lives. These men were my life saviors in so many ways. They help to keep me focused not only on the task at hand but also my relationship with God.
So often we can get caught up with what we are doing for God we tend to neglect time with the Father. I lessoned it to a Dad who is spending so much time at work because he wants to provide for his family that he actually – without realizing it – begins to neglect his family and is at a lost when they leave. Though we know the Father will never leave us – it will affect us in our relationship with him. This is why we need men in our lives who will encourage and pray for and with us during our struggles. Men who will challenge us when they see us veering from the path God has set before us.
My ‘Got Your Back’ friends lived the example Solomon wrote about in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10; “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts. For if either falls, his companion can lift him up; but pity the one who falls without another to lift him up.” It is good to have such friends – brothers in Christ – who are there to lift you up in your time of need.
If you do not have such friends, I encourage you to seek them out. Gary Yagel’s book Got Your Back is a great book to work through with a few friends to understand this concept. All of the men in this group I am a part of have shared they have greatly benefited from the teaching to understand why it is so important to have these kinds of men in your life. After watching how this played out for me while working a DROC site just reiterated this even more.
My question to you is; “Do you have men in your life that has Got Your Back?” If not, seek them out. You may not think you need men like this; but, believe me – you do.
Together in the adventure and challenge to disciple men.