This will be a blog that will look at what it means to be a real man. How do real men act? How do they talk? How do they treat others, especially their wives or girlfriends? We will look at the character of men, how that character can and will affect others, the struggles men face, and what can we do about it. The blog will also look at men’s events, books, and bible studies for men to attend. The blog is still under construction so please forgive any amateurish looks. This is my first blog so I will be learning as I go.
The world has a notion of what a real man is suppose to be. We see it displayed on TV and in the movies. We are taught from an early age that men don’t show any emotional feelings. We are to be strong. Now I am not saying that strength shouldn’t be a part of man; but, the strength we need to display is in our character and attitude. A physical and emotionally strong man can also be a weak man. I have seen many men who are in their 40’s and 50’s and still act as an adolescent high schooler: essentially a boy in a man’s body.
Oftentimes men struggle with relationships and we wonder why? Sometimes we don’t need to look any further than our own selves to discover why. Most of us grew up without anyone teaching us what the Bible tells us what it really means to be a man. Mainly because the art of Dads teaching their sons – mentoring their sons – was lost during the Industrial Revolution. Most sons have grown up – including myself – learning how to be a man from their friends in school or the TV or movies. Very few of us had another man who actually poured their lives into us.
Recently I was talking to someone who pointed out an interesting relationships between young bull elephants and the lack of mature bull elephants. It seemed that when the mature elephants were removed from the young elephants the young elephants began acting as maundering gangs. However, when the mature bull elephants were reintroduced to the young bull elephants the character of the young elephants changed. You can read the story by clicking here. The actions that was experienced was no different than many of our young boys growing up in fatherless homes.
The basis we will use to determine what it means for men to be real is the Bible. I have discovered many truths in God’s Word that has helped me in my walk as a man. Drawing closer to God and having a personnel relationship with him has help me realized my need for someone to show me and teach me how to be a real man.
The Bible tells us in Lamentations 3:40, “Let us examine and probe our ways, and let us return to the LORD.” We must not complain about events or situations that have occurred in our lives but learn from it, trusting God and being willing to change. We must allow God to bring about the kind of behavior in our life that pleases him and in turn will help us to have better relationships – better marriages.
A mentor of mine many years ago shared with me 1 Thessalonians 2:8, “Having so fond an affection for you, we were well-pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become very dear to us.” Though I may not know you personally, I know that many of us have the same struggles – the situations though may be different.
Through this blog I will be an open book and share some of my own experiences; maybe you will see that you are not the only one feeling certain ways or struggling in certain areas. And maybe by me imparting to you my own life you can examine your life and develop a deeper relationship with God; which in turn will enrich and help your relationship with others.
My goals is to post something at least every couple of weeks or more often. I hope you will choose to follow this blog and encourage others to follow also.
May God bless you as we together walk through this adventure and the challenge of being an Authentic Man.